I have to admit that I have been struggling the past couple of weeks. It is not that I do not believe in having a positive mental attitude, or that people can change their lives by changing their thoughts. I believe that 100%. It is the hype in the whole positive thinking camp that gets to me! I mean sometimes I just want to say, “Having a positive mental attitude? Eat my shorts!”

I like these! White Boxer Short with Having a positive mental attitude is asking how something can be done rather than saying it can t be done. I think I will get me a pair just so when someone comes up with that make a wish positive thinking stuff that requires no work and happens over night, I can tell them to eat my shorts and I will have a pair that they can have!

What’s the point?

The point is, you can change your life by changing your thoughts, but it will probably be the hardest thing you have ever done. We don’t change our thinking patterns over night! You can’t pay extra for over night shipping!

If you are willing to work at it, then you will make progress. If you only want to whine, then you will be a whiner for the rest of your life. I read a good post on Dave Thomas, the founder of Wendy’s on another blog, Self Help Daily. Read it! It might inspire you.

Gift of Love

Are you wondering what to get that special someone for Valentines Day? You have thought and thought and there just done not seem to be the right gift. Here is a suggestion. Let those we love be perfectly themselves.

That’s not much of a gift!

You may not think that letting some one be themselves is much of a gift. To be honest, it would be the most wonderful gift you could give them. We all try to conform to the likes of others, to some degree or other, and especially those we love. Your loved one is doing the same thing. There are things that he or she would like to be or do, but they don’t because they are afraid it will hurt you or you won’t like it somehow.

For Valentine’s Day, allow them the space to be just who they are, or better yet, who they want to be. If they want to be wild and crazy, let them. If they want to lay on the couch and read all day, let them.

Giving freedom

Giving someone total freedom is a great gift. Imagine what it would be like it the roles were reversed and you were allowed to do exactly as you want. Wouldn’t that be a gift you would remember? Think of the most outlandish thing possible and imagine being given complete freedom to do it with the full blessing of the other. Wow!

Now give that same gift to your loved one. Tell them that they are free to do just what they want any way they want to do it. There are no boundaries and there are no conditions. For one day they are free to do as they please. You may be surprised what they choose to do and you might be pleasantly surprised!

If you love them…

There is an old saying that says if you love someone or something enough, you love them enough to let them go. That is really love! To give the gift of complete freedom is a gift most people are unwilling to give. They are afraid of the outcome or of rejection. Don’t be. Live on the wild side and give this gift. They will love you all the more for it!

Here’s to You!

Money Making opportunities

No one would argue that the economy is in rough shape and has been for some time now. It has hit some people very hard with layoffs and downsizing. When life look bleak, it is hard to keep up positive thinking, but this is just the time when it is needed most! Positive thinking is a must when looking for money making opportunities in a bad economy!

Are you talking about get rich quick?

No. I don’t believe in get rich quick, unless you win the lottery, which isn’t likely. I’m not trying to sell you get rich quick in any way. What I am saying is that in hard times, we need to develop positive thinking so that we can take our current circumstances and try to figure a way to make them better.

I am not talking about get rich quick, but I will say that there have been many people in the past who have gotten very wealthy in hard economic times and they didn’t start out that way. They were able to rise above all the negativity and see the opportunities when they appeared.

What sort of opportunities?

That’s a hard one to answer because I don’t know your specific situation. I don’t know where you live, what your talents are, or any of those sorts of things.

I know that there have been several people who have done well in this economy online and that area is only going to grow. There are many online opportunities, but don’t fall for the start a blog and become a millionaire overnight routine. Working online is hard work!

I also know of people who have started their own businesses serving those who have to work more than one job. These people do housecleaning, shopping, childcare and any number of jobs. I know a man who services yachts. The people who can afford a yacht don’t feel the pinch like others and he does pretty well. I wouldn’t say that these people are becoming rich, but some of them are doing better than the average person on the street!

What about this positive thinking stuff?

The opportunities are abundant. The problem is being so negative that you can’t see them. Even if you do the first words out of your mouth might be about how that would never work or that you could never do that. Have you ever said something like that?

Adversity is not the end of everything good. It is the motivation to make things better, but you have to believe they can be. You have to seek out the opportunities and be ready to work hard to make them come true. You have to believe in yourself and your ability to do the job. You have to have faith in the Infinite that you will be given the tools you need.

Why let the hard times roll over you like a steamroller? Why not use positive thinking to help you see the money making opportunities that exist around you? Learn what it takes and follow the advice of those who have gone before you.

Here’s to You!

P.S. Here are a couple of books that I know to be pretty good. They talk about opportunity and how you can take advantage of it. These books will not tell you that you will get rich quick, but that you can not only survive, but do well if you work at it!
The 4-Hour Work Week
ProBlogger: Secrets for Blogging Your Way to a Six-Figure Income

Infinite Life

Did you ever wonder why you are encouraged by so many people to make positive thinking a part of your life? Well some are just trying to sell you something. For me there is a greater reason. I want to see you go beyond positive thinking into and Infinite life!

What do I mean by Infinite life?

If you have read any of my other blogs on the subject (I’ll put some links at the bottom) or any of my Ezine article on the Infinite Life, then you already know. If not, then here is a quick synopsis.

We are a part of the Infinite, which some might call God or the Universe. We are a part of this Creative Source and so we have the possibility of a life that is Infinite is scope. It is something much larger than any of us can imagine. How could it be linked to the Infinite and not be?

Positive thinking

Positive thinking is just one way of getting into the flow of this Infinite life. Positive thinking, meaning thinking about your life and situations in your life in a way that brings about positive results, it is a very important step, but it is not all.

What else might there be?

Well, for one think there is faith. You might say that faith is the same thing, but I think there is a difference. The difference being that faith believes what you are thinking positive about. Let’s say that you are thinking of ways to improve your financial success. You can think positive thoughts until you are blue in the face, but if you do not believe that it will ever actually come true then you are spinning your wheels!

You got to move it, move it!

Another big factor is if you are willing to get up and do something about whatever it is you are thinking positively about. If you are not willing to get up and work toward whatever it is you want, you are not going to get anywhere. What you do may not be difficult but you have to do something. Even when you receive a gift you must stretch out your hand and take it.

Don’t wait!

I challenge you to start today! Decide what it is you want to change in your life and then start to think of positive steps you might take to get there. Start to believe that you can actually do this and believe that the Infinite will help you to do what you have to do. Do not accept a mediocre life for yourself! Understand that you are created to live an Infinite life and then go out and get it!

Here’s to You!

P.S. Here are some other articles.
Infinite life infinite possibilities
Infinite Life: why do bad things happen to good people?
Why You Should Never Have to Say I Hate My Life

Self Confidence

Our self confidence has much to do with how we relate to life and those around us. The question is, does positive thinking help to improve our self confidence? The answer to that question is yes.

What does self confidence have to do with it?

We are what we think. If we think we are losers we are. If we think we are winners, we are. What we think about ourselves has much to do with who and what we are. Our self confidence, whether good or bad, tells us our place in life and what we can expect from it.

Having a good level of self confidence or building one is important. How we get that self confidence can be from our upbringing or it can be intentional on our part.

Positive thinking opens the door.

I said that our self confidence might be from our upbringing. If it was, we were helped by our parents and teachers to see that we were able to handle life’s problems. We were shown that we could rely on our abilities to solve the puzzles that life handed us. We learned to be positive.

If we were not lucky enough to have that sort of education, then we have to do it on our own and by our own intention. We learn that we can do what we set out to do and that we are able to handle life’s problems.

As we learn to think in a positive manner about the situations in our life and how to deal with them in ways that brings a good outcome or result for us and all those involved, we learn self confidence. We learn that we are not terrible people, but that we are able to do what we need to do.

What we learn.

When we use positive thinking to shape how we handle life, we learn that things go well when we expect them to and they go badly when we expect that outcome. How we believe our life to be is how it is.

We learn that life can be a series of one horrid experience after another of that it can be one blessing after another. The choice is ours to make. Most of us are bright enough to choose the latter.

How about you?

Here’s to You!

P.S. here is the international best seller The Power of Positive Thinking. I read it and thought it had some good things to say. It is a little outdated, but sometimes that’s not all bad. Make sure to read and understand the parts that talk about not only thinking positively, but working toward your goals.

The above link is an affiliate link and, should you decide to purchase, I will make a small commission that does not effect the price to you at all.

Infinite Life

I believe that we have the opportunity to have an infinite life. Recently I had an experience where someone I know was questioning why do bad things happen to good people. Here is the real simple and, frankly, only answer.

Because they are alive!

That’s right. Bad things happen to good people because they are alive. God is not punishing them, the cosmos does not hate them, they haven’t done anything wrong, well maybe, they are simply alive.

If you are alive, you can expect bad things to happen. It makes me so angry to here people say that if you just follow this or that religion, nothing will ever happen to you, or if you follow the law of attraction well enough you will never attract bad stuff into your life. Pardon my crassness, but bullshit!

If you are alive, no matter if you are a good person or a bad person, bad stuff will happen; hardships will happen.\

You mean there’s no way out?

That’s right! As long as you are drawing breath, you run the risk of having something bad happen to you. Now that does not mean there is nothing we can do about it.

Step one: Have faith.

Have faith that God, the Universe, the Infinite Source, whatever it is you believe in will help you get through whatever it is you are going through. I said before that re3ligion will not stop bad stuff from happening in your life, and it won’t, but it will help in dealing with it! There have been many studies that show that people with religious faith of some sort deal with hardship better than those who do not.

Step two: Think positive.

I don’t meant the kind of thinking that denies that anything is wrong. This will only lead to frustration and the mind tries to justify what is happening with what you are telling it. Some people seem to say that you should never admit that you are having hardship, but I disagree.

Admit it, and then move on. The type of positive thinking that I am talking about is where you look at whatever situation you are in and then begin to look for positive ways to deal with whatever it is. How can you turn this situation around? How can you think about it so that it does not crush or control your life? What can you learn from it?

Step three: Action

Now that you have thought about your situation and have come up with some positive steps, it is time to put them into action. Don’t sit around waiting for someone else to do it for you. Don’t sit around waiting for the Universe to do it for you either. There is an old saying about how God made a lot of marble, but he never made a statue.

As you begin to take action, you may well notice that the Infinite seems to be lending a hand, but if you do nothing, you may have a very long wait. I am not saying that God does not move or that God does not change things. What I am saying is that God usually expects us to do something as well.

Why do bad things happen to good people? They happen because they are alive. What they do with those bad things is usually in measure with who and what they are. What about you? What do you do when bad things come into your life?

Here’s to You!

P.S. Here is a book that has long been thought to be a great piece on this same subject. When Bad Things Happen to Good People