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Quality of Life lose your inhibitions

Losing Inhibitions

Losing Inhibitions

Tonight is the night when a lot of people do a fair amount of drinking. People lose their inhibitions and do all sorts of things; some of them good, some not so. Most of those people like the feeling of losing those inhibitions, at least for a little while. They feel free from the life that binds them. How is your quality of life? Could it be better if you lost a few inhibitions?

Now I don’t want you to think that I am suggesting that you go around drunk all the time. I’m not even suggesting that you use alcohol or any substance to make your life better, more fun. What I am suggesting is that there is a way to lose some of those inhibitions and improve the quality, and yes the fun, in our lives. How?

When I was a kid, there were a few times when a bunch of us got together and would “party”. Some would be able to obtain booze and some of us couldn’t. I was often one who couldn’t. I learned that I could fake it and no one would really know the difference. I even found that I could lose my inhibitions if I acted drunk. How could I do that?

It was easy. We have our inhibitions because they are our defense against criticism when we do something others think foolish. We are inhibited from speaking our mind so someone doesn’t’ disagree with us. We are inhibited from acting a certain way in case someone doesn’t like it. Now a few inhibitions are reasonable, we should feel inhibited against walking naked down a city street, we could get arrested. Most inhibitions, however, keep us from being the person we really want to be.

The problem with losing our inhibitions through alcohol or some other substance is that we also lose our common sense, our reasoning. We might walk down the street naked anyway forgetting that we might get arrested. If we lose our inhibitions on purpose, we are able to be freer, without losing our reasoning abilities.

Let’s say we decide to lose the inhibition of speaking our mind. We are able to speak more freely, not worried about what others think without becoming obnoxious or getting into a fight with someone. We find that we have a sense of freedom in being able to say what we want. We become more confident when we find that we can hold our own in a conversation.

I know many men who won’t dance because they think they will look foolish. What if they decided to lose that inhibition and went out there a danced away, not worrying about how others looked at them. I can tell you from experience that they will have fun!

Our quality of life is much less when we allow ourselves to be ruled by our inhibitions and our feelings about what others think about us. Why not let go of those fears and live life to the fullest?

Here’s to You!

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What Do You Want From Me?

What do you want from me? This next year is going to be a year of defining and refining this site. I want this site to be what you need it to be. I know what I think, but for this to be truly useful, it has to be what you want and need.

What sort of posts do you want? Do you want “how to” posts or would you prefer something else? The “how to” posts are probably Read the rest of this entry »

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Self Improvement: a new life in a new year

A New You

A New You

In just a few days, we will be in a new year, a new decade. As we look to the new year, why not look forward to who and what we want to be. Self improvement is all about becoming who we want to be. Why not have a new life in the new year?

You may be thinking that having a new life sounds great but there is no way that things are going to be different. You know, with an attitude like that you are absolutely right. Nothing will be different because you don’t expect them to be. We create our realities and the way we think determines our reality.

You also may be thinking that improving your life, having a new you sounds like Read the rest of this entry »

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New Year’s Resolutions living life to the fullest.

Live life

Live life

Are you planning of setting some New Year’s resolutions? The question I have for you is this. Are you living life to the fullest? I mean, isn’t that the point to all of this.

You know, I have to tell you the truth, I started writing this post and had it all saved and then just wanted to puke! I mean it was the same drivel that can read on a thousand sites like this one. That’s not what I want for you or Read the rest of this entry »

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Words of Inspiration: what should I do with my life in the New Year

Lynn Terry

Lynn Terry

I have some words of inspiration for you. I also have an answer to the question what should I do with my life in the New Year. It is an answer for me and for you.

In a minute I am going to send you to a post on a friend of mine’s blog. Although we have never met in person, I consider her a friend anyway; a friend and a mentor.

This woman’s story is one of hard times and hard work. The point to it though is not some maudlin tear jerker, but a story of determination, persistence and perseverance. I am not going to give you all the gory details, I don’t even know them all. She won’t give them either because they aren’t the point.

The point my friends is that you have a choice. We all have a choice. We can live as a victim of life or we can live the life we choose. No, this doesn’t mean that everything will be perfect, but it does mean that it can be a hell of a lot better than what we think.

Now I don’t want to take up a bunch of your time. I really do want you to read Lynn’s blog post. If you don’t click through, you will have cheated yourself of some very good words of inspiration. The choice is yours, just as each moment in this life.

Here is the link to Lynn Terry’s words of wisdom at ClickNewz.

Here’s to You!

P.S. If you are at all interested in internet marketing, you might consider joining Lynn’s Elite group on her forum. I am a member and I cannot believe all the help I have received.

Here’s a post that you might like that goes along with this topic.
Self Improvement: quick fix or defining moment

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Merry! Happy!

Happy Holidays!

Here’s to You!

Self Improvement: quick fix or defining moment

Defining Moment

Defining Moment

In your search for self improvement, are you searching for a quick fix, or a defining moment? Yesterday, I wrote about how change in our lives happens as a process and not the flip of a switch. This is true, there are few instances of quick change, but they are rare. Defining moments can be instantaneous.

What do I mean by defining moments? Usually we think Read the rest of this entry »

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Self Improvement: my life keeps getting better!

Self Improvement

Self Improvement

I was watching a Tony Robbins video and he said something that I thought was pretty good! He was talking about making his life better, changing his life. Then he said something about improving his life. The thought came to me that we sometimes get caught thinking that suddenly our life will change and we will be completely different. That’s not true. In my life, little has changed over night. Most things became better over time. Self improvement about our life getting better; it is not flipping a switch and being someone else.

There are a zillion products out there to help change your life. The thing about these products is Read the rest of this entry »

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