Do you change your life, or your thoughts?

In my experience, you can’t do one without the other. You cannot change your life to be anything other than what it always has been if you never change your thinking.

If you always think what you’ve always thought,
You will always do what you’ve always done.
If you always do what you’ve always done,
You will always get what you’ve always got.
If you always get what you’ve always got,
You will always think what you’ve always thought.
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It is a vicious cycle, but it is true! Nothing changes without your thoughts changing!

As we get older, we tend to think in patterns that are well established. The unfortunate thing about that is that these patterns may not serve us all that well. In fact, they may be down right detrimental to the life we desire to live.

What is it you would like to change? What are your thoughts about it? What do you think about when you think about that subject? If you can clearly listen to your thoughts, you may see patterns that stop you from doing the things you want and getting the things you desire.

Join me in changing your thoughts. Join me in this great adventure that is just unfolding. Join me in finding the way to change your thoughts and change your life!

Change Your Thoughts

P.S. Dr. Wayne Dyer has a book called Change Your Thoughts – Change Your Life: Living the Wisdom of the Tao. It is rated four stars and Dyer did a public TV show based on the book.

Gift of Love

Are you wondering what to get that special someone for Valentines Day? You have thought and thought and there just done not seem to be the right gift. Here is a suggestion. Let those we love be perfectly themselves.

That’s not much of a gift!

You may not think that letting some one be themselves is much of a gift. To be honest, it would be the most wonderful gift you could give them. We all try to conform to the likes of others, to some degree or other, and especially those we love. Your loved one is doing the same thing. There are things that he or she would like to be or do, but they don’t because they are afraid it will hurt you or you won’t like it somehow.

For Valentine’s Day, allow them the space to be just who they are, or better yet, who they want to be. If they want to be wild and crazy, let them. If they want to lay on the couch and read all day, let them.

Giving freedom

Giving someone total freedom is a great gift. Imagine what it would be like it the roles were reversed and you were allowed to do exactly as you want. Wouldn’t that be a gift you would remember? Think of the most outlandish thing possible and imagine being given complete freedom to do it with the full blessing of the other. Wow!

Now give that same gift to your loved one. Tell them that they are free to do just what they want any way they want to do it. There are no boundaries and there are no conditions. For one day they are free to do as they please. You may be surprised what they choose to do and you might be pleasantly surprised!

If you love them…

There is an old saying that says if you love someone or something enough, you love them enough to let them go. That is really love! To give the gift of complete freedom is a gift most people are unwilling to give. They are afraid of the outcome or of rejection. Don’t be. Live on the wild side and give this gift. They will love you all the more for it!

Here’s to You!

Stand out from the crowd

Is it alright to be yourself? Is it acceptable to feel free to stand out from the crowd? Not only is it alright, it seems it is mandatory. If you refuse to be yourself, you cheat the world of who and what you are.

At bottom every man knows well enough that he is a unique being, only once on this earth; and by no extraordinary chance will such a marvelously picturesque piece of diversity in unity as he is, ever be put together a second time. ~Friedrich Nietzsche

You were born an original. Don’t die a copy. ~John Mason

What if I don’t know who I am?

In some sense, that could be good, but I don’t think it is true for most people. Most of us have some sort of inclination as to who we are, what we stand for, what makes us unique from the crowd. We know, we are just too unsure of ourselves to stand out from that crowd. It takes courage to do so, but when you find that courage, it can be so freeing.

I said that it might be good to not know who you are. The reason I said that is, if you are truly not sure, then the discovery can be a wonderful journey and there is opportunity to build the you that you desire.

You must have control of the authorship of your own destiny. The pen that writes your life story must be held in your own hand. ~Irene C. Kassorla

Many people are not satisfied with who they believe themselves to be. They desire to be more like someone else. Now I am not advocating that you be other than you are, what I am saying is that you have the opportunity to build the characteristics that you desire. You can be more assertive, more productive, happier, whatever it is you like.

Why do I want to risk standing out in the crowd?

Why?

Is life not a hundred times too short for us to stifle ourselves? ~Friedrich Nietzsche

Does that not say it all? Would you prefer to go to the grave regretting an unfulfilled life or knowing that you did all you could, that you were true to your own nature? I know the answer for myself. What is yours?

Certainly there are risks. Some may not accept who you are. Some may criticize you for what you stand for. Do you really care that much? Do you care so much that you would rather be a slave to their wishes than be free in yourself?

Life is short. There are only so many chances to give the world the gift, that’s right, the gift of who and what you are. Why waste a single moment of that time? Why lose sight of the dreams you have, the dreams inspired by Spirit? Why not be yourself and feel free to stand out from the crowd?

Here’s to You!

P.S. Here are a couple of other posts you might find interesting!
Infinite life infinite possibilities
Positive Thinking: is it real?

Giving Up

The problem for me giving up is then they win. Who are they? Well, I think they change for each person. For me it might just be life in general. I don’t know who they are for you. It might be parents or siblings. It is probably someone who is close to you, someone who it is important for you to impress. The questions to you, and to myself, is, is it more important to impress someone else, or yourself?

What is it you want to do? What is it you want to accomplish more than anything else? Maybe it is a career goal, or maybe something in your personal life, lose wight or visit a different country. Whatever it is, name that thing out loud right now. Do you hear your words? I just did it as I wrote it and I have to tell you that what I named is what I want. I felt good saying it out loud. Did you?

I suggest you name out loud what you want morning and night. Just say the thing out loud so you can hear it with your own ears and anyone around you can hear it to. If they want to know what you are doing tell them you are impressing the person closest to you. You and I will know who that really is.

Here’s to You!

Raven Blair-Davies

Raven has her own radio show and internet marketing business. She started with just about nothing and has built it up to be something we could all wish for.

You may not be interested in doing what Raven does, but she is such an inspirational speaker that, no matter what you do in life, you can learn from her! This woman ROCKS!

I will warn you that the interview is a little over an hour. You can listen to it on your computer or download it from iTunes. It will be one of the best hours you have ever spent!
Here’s to You!

P.S. Raven talks about the movie The Secret and the book Think and Grow Rich. Both the books can be found on the book page and the movie for The Secretcan be found on the recordings page.

What do you think?

How many times have you attempted something and one of the first thoughts through your head was something like,” what will others think of me?”  We all want to be loved and admired and having others think we are less is not good.

It has been my experience that often those fears are completely false. I can remember doing things that I thought others might think I was foolish for doing and the exact opposite was true. The not only did not criticize me, they made comments to the effect that they thought I was brave or that they wished they had the nerve to do that.

Afraid of criticism

The fear of criticism is, like most fears, of our own thinking. Certainly if you are confronted with a tiger on the loose, you should be afraid, but fears like the fear of criticism is in your own thoughts and mind.

What would you like to do? Would you like to take up sky diving? Sure people might say you are crazy, but it is mostly because they don’t have the nerve to do it. Would you like to start a business? The same answer is true. Whatever it is you would like to do, the fear of being criticized is first, in your head and second, if you are criticized, it is usually out of jealousy on the part of the other person.

Instead of you being the laughingstock what really happens is you are the envy of others. They may say something demeaning, but they are only doing so out of the fear of doing it themselves.

Move past it!

Today, think of one dream you have and look into doing it. Find out what it takes and take steps toward it. Tell other people and see how many criticize you for it and try to understand their reasoning for it. I bet most people will say they admire you and those who do criticize will do so out of envy and jealousy.

Here’s to You!

Steve

P.S. take a look at my Living Your Dream page for a little inspiration.